Intra-familial child sexual abuse makes up nearly half of all child sexual abuse cases reported in the world. It happens within the family, where the abuser is a family member or someone closely connected to the family, like a step-father/mother, uncle, or a foster carer. This type of abuse is unfortunately very common.
While most offenders in family settings are male, abuse can also be carried out by women or other children in the family. In some extreme cases, family members may be involved in making and sharing abusive images or videos of the child, or even in organized abuse by multiple people.
Intra-familial abuse usually begins at an early age and can continue for many years. Because it happens within a trusted family environment, the trauma for the child can be even more severe. It can involve feelings of betrayal, confusion, and shame, which make the situation harder to talk about. The long-term effects can include poor mental and physical health, relationship struggles, and continued abuse in the future.
Sadly, much intra-familial abuse remains hidden. Children may not speak out because they’re afraid of the abuser, feel guilty, or don’t understand that what is happening to them is abuse. Some children, like those with physical or learning disabilities, may face additional challenges in disclosing abuse. That’s why it’s important for professionals to be aware of the signs of abuse and to offer the right kind of help. Professionals and parents must be trustworthy, empathetic, and offer children choices to feel safe and heard.
How to Protect Your Child
If you are a parent who discovers that your child has been sexually abused by a family member, it’s crucial to act quickly to protect your child from further harm and prevent feelings of guilt or trauma. One powerful story that can offer insight and strength in such a situation is Erin Arvizu’s memoir, Rotten Fruit Is Falling Down.
In 2021, Erin’s own child revealed a shocking story of sexual assault by a family member, and Erin’s journey to seek justice for her child and other relatives who had suffered the same abuse is both heartbreaking and inspiring. Through Rotten Fruit Is Falling Down, Erin takes readers deep into the painful reality of a family haunted by sexual abuse, where silence and shame perpetuated a cycle of trauma.
Erin’s courage to speak out on behalf of her child, Vinni, and the many cousins who had also been victims is the heart of the book. It shows how one child’s bravery can spark a wave of revelations, ultimately leading to justice and a shift in the family dynamic. The book also explores how the justice system often seems more focused on protecting the guilty than helping the victims heal.
Erin’s memoir, written with raw honesty and a touch of dark humor, is an empowering read for anyone struggling with their own trauma. If you’re looking for a story of survival, resilience, and hope, Rotten Fruit Is Falling Down is a must-read.
